When You Want to Move on But You Can’t

Posted in uncategorized on November 24, 2020 by terrylan

Trying to move on means trying to get away from something. And if you can’t move on, that means you should stay and fix something. Most probably, you have to fix yourself. Which part to fix? That depends on the circumstances.

If it’s moving on from a heartbreak, you probably feel regret for wasting time and effort(and probably resources) for the person who broke your heart. I don’t mean that you get back to him/her. I just mean stop moving on. Re-asses yourself. Reevaluate the situation. Chances are you still feel something towards that person. Unfortunately, you can’t move on if you still have that feeling. Either you convert the feeling to hate, which I don’t recommend, or lower it down to almost not feeling something towards the person, if you can’t lower it down to friendship level. Be civil with them. Be happy on your own. Let them go.

Lastly, if you are trying to move on from the past but you can’t, you maybe feeling regret for not being able to do something in that past. Like if you lost your car because you weren’t able to pay for the last three months, you may feel regret of wasting time and money paying monthly for the last two years just to lose the car. This is easier to deal with since this is a one way relationship. You’re not holding on to a person.You’re holding on to the past; something already gone. And most likely, the attachment you have is with a thing: money, car, something that can be bought. This time you have to forgive yourself. Think of what you lost as the price you have to pay for something that you have learned to not do again. So, make sure you that you learn something. Then aim at what you have lost and try to get those back.

So, if you can’t move on, don’t move on and don’t try to forget. Stay. Man up(or woman up or lgbtqi+… up) and do what you have to do. You will have to learn something and change yourself for the better.

I’m sure you’re here because your trying to move on (or I forced you to click the link to this blog. Or you could be a stalker). Just saying. If you are trying to move on, let’s discuss below. What are you trying to avoid? Do you know what to do, but you just can’t do it? Scroll down and let me know.


Posted in better philippines with tags on May 11, 2010 by terrylan


another link to broaden the minds of filipinos. sad to say, it is not the kind article that pinoy’s would read.

money equals power

Posted in philippine election with tags , , , , , , on April 7, 2010 by terrylan

i was not surprised when the son of kris aquino shouted manny villar’s name while on stage at a proclamation rally of noynoy. villar’s ads are that good. the songs got a lot of hooks. the editing is superb. they got children on it. his ads can even even win awards.

now, combine his ads with long time slots and you get a perfect exposure. even if we don’t know the real statistics of his ads, we can say that he is everywhere. and a proof of that is kris’ son chanting “villar” on his uncle’s rally. my 3-year-old son stops at what hes is doing when a channel starts to show a villar ad, then he sings along with it. even some of my friends are saying the same thing. simply put, villar has the perfect advertising plan which can only be accomplished with the right amount of money.

“more money = more ads = more exposure = more votes = more chance of presidency = more power”

patching example

Posted in better philippines, philippine election, philippine government with tags , , on January 19, 2010 by terrylan

another example of patching is the amendment of the existing constitution. the 1987 constitution preceded the reign of ferdinand marcos as a dictator. i believe the main reason for the constitutional reform is to prevent another martial law from happening which the early constitution can’t accomplish. therefore, they are stating that the former law was not effective and was untimely. moreover, the present idea of charter change came from legislators thinking that democracy is not the type of government for the philippines. hence, they say, change is the only option.

so, why didn’t they thought about changing to federalism instead of just changing the constitution? i think, it’s because in that time, they were concentrated on a quick fix for the martial law. while filipino’s are plotting the overthrow of marcos, no one thought about who should replace him. so, when it was time to replace marcos, the only option was ninoy aquino’s wife – cory. filipino’s could have done better.

that was an example of how most filipino’s think – by the day. no president ever gave a speech about how they see the philippines 50 years from now. and no president continued any project left by previous presidents. that’s because every election is just a cycle of patching – a quick fix. with that said, i wonder where philippines would be 50 years from now.

patching vs. fixing

Posted in better philippines on December 31, 2009 by terrylan

i define patching as a temporary solution and fixing as a better solution. i cant say, it’s a permanent solution for i dont believe in such. problems vary from time to time and a permanent solution for a current problem might not solve future problems. and, we all know that we can’t foresee all future problems.

observation tells me that, more often than not, filipinos have the tendency to do quick fixes every time they have a problem. reasons vary from unwillingness to extend effort to any-fix-will-do mentality.

let’s take philippine roads as an example.

whenever there is a mutilated(crack, uneven, etc) road somewhere in manila the only fix(if that road is lucky) that one will see is when the government dumps a cement and lets it dry – that’s it. i know that it might be their standard procedure, but when you see that the whole road is mutilated and they are just using their quick fix – there must be something wrong there.

population issues

Posted in population on December 4, 2009 by terrylan

last post, we left several questions about the accelerated growing of population. and i think all of them are invaluable questions in accordance to creating a better philippines.

why? we need a big change and not just fixing the mistakes made – which i’ll discuss on some other post.

let’s concentrate on the topic of population. like what i’ve said: know the problem, then look for a solution. population growth is not the problem. it just looks like a problem because when one studies the possible outcome of the population statistics, he sticks with the idea that it is a problem that will happen, instead of thinking that it is natural for the population to grow. the real problem is allocation. where do you put those people?

manila is imagined as where success is. you go to manila, you work hard and you’ll be rich. and now, everybody wants to go to manila. this thinking is a factor of several issues: the agricultural industry’s downfall, cultural demise and imbalance in the population density. i’m thinking, manila has more than 50% of the nation’s population. (if anyone has the statistics, kindly post the link on the comment)

in addition, some even end up being prostitutes, beggars and what is politically known as illegal and informal settlers – which are locally know as “squatters”: people who builds houses on someone else’s property and eventually claim it as theirs.

we need unproductive filipinos in manila to go back to their roots – to their own provinces.they don’t have anything to do in manila so why do they even waste their time hanging around and living under bridges. it’s not that they are unwelcome, but they are needed back home. they are needed by their provinces for it to become like manila – where success is.

184 million Pinoys by 2040

Posted in population on November 23, 2009 by terrylan


Currently, the Philippines has a population of 92.2 million and the said figures will eventually double in 31 years to place the country in 10th spot.

what do we need to do? stop reproducing – that’s the only logical step to take. but, i doubt if filipinos would take the initiative. they are know to react only on the verge of destruction. take the ondoy tragedy as an example. now, they are aware of the climate change happening. but it’s not enough for them to notice other problems like proper garbage disposal and flood control infrastructure.

ok, that’s thinking big. let’s think by the details.

typhoon ondoy gave opportunity to other people and corporations to show their good side by relief operations. bad part, the goods are placed inside plastic bags. and plastic bags will turn to trash which will add to the existing garbage that we still need to figure out how to dispose.

back to the population growth

here are some questions we need to answer:

  • how do we stop or at least decrease the growth rate?
  • what is the right amount of growth rate
  • what do we do with the idle (unproductive) portion of the population?
  • are there jobs/work/activities waiting for the children when they reach adulthood?

these are just the tip of the iceberg and are focused within the population issue itself. questions with relevance to other issues should also be counted like – “is the land mass of the country enough for the entire population?” or “why is the majority of the population concentrated on manila?”. unfortunately, we don’t get to discuss those often, nor do we here it being discussed.

i’ll tackle some of these questions next.

google is your friend

Posted in uncategorized on October 9, 2009 by terrylan

it hurts me when i read questions thrown to me over the net via chat like this “do you know anything about ipod touch?”  if you don’t know what i mean, let me elaborate:

obviously, this guy is about to ask me something technical about i-touch (which i don’t have). i know that i can just say “i don’t know anything about it” but, somehow, i want people to learn to go about their problem – alone, first. and not resorting to asking someone right ahead without even consulting google.

so, what needs to be done here? simple!

  1. know the problem
  2. then get a solution.

let’s take the example above. we already know it’s about i-touch and he continued with the question “why is it that games can’t be installed?”. knowing some facts doesn’t mean one knows the problem. that’s why there’s “investigation”. here, asking questions is the key. and ask the right person – yourself and ask as much as you can. never ask anyone else(that will come later). ask everything and anything about the subject. even if it’s the silliest question, no one will know. sometimes, the correct answers follow the silliest questions.

like mother, like son

Posted in philippine government on September 1, 2009 by terrylan

presidential son, mickey arroyo, was intervied this morning on gma7’s program “unang hirit” and what a b*ll sh*t he is. just watch the interview to see what i mean

1 of 2 – http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4q0JKzpjh_o

2 of 2 – http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_B6I8h24sC8

and the f*ckin idiot will still be voted by voters who are more idiot that he is… what a waste!

ignorance of the law

Posted in better philippines with tags , , , , on May 22, 2009 by terrylan

read this first: blog from gmanews.tv

i cant believe that no one in this country knows anything about the flag and heraldic code of the philippines.

the anthem is not to be treated as “art”. yes it was penned by an artist, but it was commisioned. meaning the government asked the artist to create the anthem. now the anthem is to be used as what the law/rule/code says. and if you have anything to say about that, you better tell it to your congressman so he can file an amendment for that rule. and if you’re going to right your opinion on the subject better do some research first. if you don’t want ill be glad to assist you.

read: REPUBLIC ACT NO. 8491 – “Flag and Heraldic Code of the Philippines.” the national anthem starts with chapter 2, section 35

let’s do a study:

Sec. 37. The rendition of the National Anthem, whether played or sung, shall be in accordance with the musical arrangement and composition of Julian Felipe.

section 37 tells us that it should be sung how it was arranged. arrangement is how the composer or arranger percieves the music and rights it down on a paper for the musicians and singers to play or sing. which means it should be played and sung how it was written – that is note for note with the accents and embelishments, if there are. so, no re-arrangement is allowed. no slowing down, no change of key, no pause – simply sing it as it was written.

now, did he (martin nievera) follow the code? nope.

let’s review the penalties:

SECTION 48. Failure or refusal to observe the provisions of this Act; and any violation of the corresponding rules and regulations issued by the Office of the President, shall after proper notice and hearing, shall be penalized by public censure which shall be published at least once in a newspaper of general circulation.

SECTION 50. Any person or juridical entity which violates any of the provisions of this Act shall, upon conviction, be punished by a fine of not less than Five thousand pesos (P5,000) nor more than Twenty thousand pesos (P20,000), or by imprisonment for not more than one (1) year, or both such fine and imprisonment, at the discretion of the court: Provided, That for any second and additional offenses, both fine and imprisonment shall always be imposed: Provided, further, That in case the violation is committed by a juridical person, its President or Chief Executive Officer thereof shall be liable.

i guess the penalties are clear enough for you to read.

“I didn’t get to see the fight live, so I had to go to YouTube to listen to Nievera—and when I did, I had to wonder what the fuss was all about.”

“what the fuss was all about?” clearly this is ignorance of the law